Testing...

I have had surprisingly not a lot of tests done.  Not because I don't want them but because doctors don't even consider you have an issue until you have lost 3 or more babies.  What exactly is the reasoning behind this? It shocks me when I hear of stories of women who give up after 8 losses or 12. Thats ridiculous.

Then as a woman we wonder. What if I had a different doctor. One who didn't just let my children die because thats the norm. That is the norm. Think about it. For those of you who have children. What would you do for them? Would you push them out of the way of a car, sacrifice yourself? Travel the world to make sure they have the best health care? Would you yell at a nurse who gave them the wrong dosage? Yes I bet you would do all of these things.

I bet you check on them when they are sleeping. I bet you feel their foreheads when they get red. I bet you would give a limb if it meant their life.

Thats whats annoying. I didn't break my arm. Don't treat me like it will heal. "You can try again after 6 months." Theres no cast. No magical time frame as to where I will heal. In fact I wont heal. My children are dieing, and it took me 4 doctors and three specialists to find someone who might help me figure out why. ITS ONLY A FEW TESTS! Granted, sometimes theres no answer, but why not test. Why not try to save our children. We want to save them. We don't want them to die. But doctors have weird ideas as to what is happening. Three times. Normally a woman has to lose three children before they even test her. Then how many do you lose while trying to figure it out? 1 or 2 more? 5 children? What kind of society do we live in, where we will let a family have 5 babies die for reasons that are preventable. What kind of society lets these families grieve a taboo disaster over and over and over again before we test?

There needs to be a miscarriage clinic. In every state. A place where women can go for answers and tests. A place where they wont be shrugged off. Where their children wont be shrugged off. Why is it, that there are plastic surgeons every where but no one to help women who have suffered the ultimate loss? Why s it easier for me to get a boob job than to get a simple blood test?

20% of all confirmed pregnancies end in miscarriage. So in your child's first grade class of 30. There a 6 children missing.